This is my (Jill’s) last hosting post. Shannon will he here next week to officially kick off the month of August. Our last month of panels!
We have really enjoyed having Sara Ella with us this week. We hope you have too. You can learn more about Sara on her website at www.saraella.com. You can also follow her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube. She’s quite the YouTube star, too, if you didn’t know. She often does videos for writers. You should check out her channel and subscribe.
Thanks for doing panels with us, Sara. Here is our question of the day:
As authors, we’re always trying to figure out which lies our characters believe. In your professional life, have you been able to identify a lie you have believed?
Sara: Wow. And I thought the last question was deep. I think I used to believe you have to make The New York Times bestseller list to be a successful author. I found a lot of validation in industry reviews and awards. The more praise my work received, the more I felt as if I had somehow “made it.” But the truth is, I have found so much more value in personal letters and notes from my readers. They are the ones I write for, after all. I think if you base your success on superficial things, you’ll never be satisfied. I know I wasn’t. Now I have so much more joy and peace because I know the value of my work isn’t based on what some magazine or newspaper says. It’s when someone tells me my book made them cry or that it touched them in some way — that’s the real reward.
Stephanie: “You can get it all done if you just try a little harder.” The truth is that it doesn’t matter how well I organize my time, strive with all my strength, and batch my tasks, I am never going to be able to get done all the writing, marketing, and mothering that I want in a 24 hour period. I’m just not. It’s taken me a long time to learn how to take time for rest even when not everything is done (it never is) and to let myself off the hook sometimes.
Jill: I shared my big lie during the question we had about defining success and failure. The lie that “I don’t matter” unless I’m proving it somehow. A lifetime of believing that lie has turned me into an overachiever who is always striving. So over the past year (believe it or not), I’ve been working hard to not be a militant slave driver about the deadlines and goals I give myself. Because I have to take care of myself. I need rest. I need to be with my family. And I need to take time for me, whether that means going on a walk, reading a book for fun, or crafting. Because, like Stephanie said, no one can do it all. No one should. We’re not meant to be slaves on this planet. We’re meant to enjoy life. And life isn’t about how much we can get done. It’s about how we love ourselves and each other. That’s what matters.