This post originally ran in May of last year, but as I just experienced a HUGE win with my kids, I was thinking about all the failure that led to this very specific success. And I thought it was worth discussing failure as a necessity once again.
As writers, failure is one of our greatest fears.
It strikes me that the very act of writing a story should bring both the value and necessity of failure into sharp focus. As students of plot and structure, we understand why a hero’s first attempt at reaching a goal is usually unsuccessful.
In Empire Strikes Back, we understand why Luke’s effort to kill Darth Vader isn’t successful. He’s not in possession of all the facts, he’s not strong enough, and he hasn’t finished his training.
In Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, we watch Harry struggle with Dementors again and again, and while we feel for him, we understand that mastering the charm that will protect himself is difficult. It will take time and practice. He has to come to grips with his fear and find a memory happy enough to defeat it.
In The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe, we’re aware that Edmund’s moral failure opens up the door for redemption. Without it, there’s no stone table, there’s no sacrifice. Any victory over the White Witch is simply a battle of strength versus strength. Aslan’s unique ability to redeem Edmund’s failure gives the plot a depth we couldn’t have otherwise explored.
The more we read and the more we write, the more we learn about the usefulness of failure in story. We find that one character’s failure can set the stage for another character’s assent. Tolkien uses this device masterfully. Aragorn fears failing in the same way his forebears failed. It’s why he hid from the throne, why he was so reluctant to rise to power as the rightful king. The failures of his ancestors make readers acutely aware that Aragorn may not succeed at his task. This reality pinned expertly into place by Tolkien, pays off beautifully when Aragorn conquers the frailty in his blood and does not succumb to the temptations that unseated his elders.
Failure is a lush backdrop for success and while we’re keen to use it to enhance the stories we write about fictional characters, we’re reluctant to believe it could have any place in our own, ever-unfolding, story. When failure rises up in our own lives, specifically on our writing journeys, our first response is often one of surprise. We’re shocked that we could work so hard and still come up short of our goal.
Frustration, embarrassment, irritation, disappointment, anger, maybe even grief. These are all reactions that I can sympathize with. But, shock? A disciple of story should never been surprised when our efforts do not yield the desired outcome.
Here’s what the president of Pixar and Walt Disney Animation Studios said about failure:
As creatives who are always pushing the envelope and crafting new art, this is a lesson we must learn. The sooner we embrace it, the easier it will be for us to navigate failures in our own lives. So! Let’s take a look at why failure is necessary, for both your hero and for YOU.
What does failure do for a story?
Failure brings direction
We talked about Luke Skywalker earlier, but consider his actions after the events of Empire Strikes Back. The movie ended with a measure of both success and failure. By abandoning his Jedi training, Luke was able to reunite with some of his friends, but not before Han was frozen in carbonite and handed over to Boba Fett. Luke’s fight with Vader was also a colossal failure that cost him his hand and shed light on hurtful family ties, injuring him further. Luke could have chosen to wallow in his failure and in the harsh truths he heard, but he didn’t. Instead, he put together a plan to rescue Han and then he returned to Dagobah to finish his training.
If we’re careful to look for it, failure can provide direction in ways success never will. Failure leads us back to the practice arena so we can work harder on our craft. It shows us the chinks in our armor, the weak spots in our discipline, and the cheats that have cost us quality. That kind of knowledge can be painful to process, but if we choose practice over bitterness, we take one more step toward success.
Failure takes raw talent and demands discipline
So many of the stories we love revolve around a Chosen One and a moment of destiny in the offing. The Matrix has Neo. Lord of the Rings has Frodo. There’s Harry Potter and Percy Jackson. Kung Fu Panda has Po and Ender’s Game has Ender himself.
My favorite moment in these stories is
when the Chosen One realizes that the special qualities he was born with
will not be enough to win the day. The raw talent that resides
somewhere inside of him must be transformed into a weapon. And the only
way that can happen is with discipline, experience, and often wisdom
from a group of supporters who believe in this would-be champion.
You’re no different. If you’re attempting to succeed based on raw talent alone, failure will be an eye-opening rest stop as you journey. Raw talent doesn’t require anything of us. We’re all born with a measure of it. It’s what we do with it that matters. You need to live and learn. To train alongside others who believe in you and will support you even in the rough moments. Not only will these things move you closer to success, but they are just plain old good for you. They will make you a well-rounded, worthy person, as well as a better writer.
Failure gathers genuine support
It can be devastating to learn that failure cost you an opportunity. But that’s nothing to realizing that failure cost you relationships or reputation. In the movie, The Dark Knight, Batman takes the fall for Harvey Dent’s killing spree and his only remaining supporter is Commissioner Gordon. Failure, or perceived failure, can cost you affection. But failure is also good for shining a light on those who value YOU more than your successes.
Remember the movie Sandlot? When Scotty Smalls knocks his step-dad’s prized, Babe Ruth-autographed ball over a fence, his friends could have jumped ship. They could have left him standing in that dirt lot all by himself without a prayer of retrieving the ball from the gigantic mastiff guarding the yard beyond. But they didn’t. In that moment, Scotty learned what it truly meant to be part of a team, to have friends who would stick by him when leaving was the easier thing to do.
Failure begets empathy
When we watch characters screw up on the page or on the screen, it becomes much easier to identify with them. Even if we haven’t failed in the same way, we have failed and we understand the complicated emotions that follow.
In the TV show The Flash, Barry Allen screws up time and again as he tries to uncover the mystery of his mother’s murder. Unfortunately for Barry, his ability to run faster than time often causes problems that he feels honor bound to fix. We understand this need because we share it. When we fail, we want to go back in time and fix things. There’s a part of us that envies Barry’s ability to do what we cannot. And then his speedster ways screw everything up and we understand, again, the agony as he is forced to apologize for failing to patch up his own mess.
Here’s the truth: it can be embarrassing to admit you tried really hard to succeed at something and came up short. But failing is human. It unites us all. And finding a way to share those painful efforts gives those around you the freedom to try difficult things without worrying about the negative opinions of others. Failure isn’t something you should be ashamed of. It simply means you tried. Pick yourself up, use what you learned from the experience, and try again. Unless you’re attempting to run backwards through time and then PUH-LEASE learn from Barry’s mistakes and let us all come to grips with life as it is.
Failure sets the stage for a success story
I would love to tell you that you’ll have a storybook ending full of success and that all your dreams will one day come true, but I’m not going to do that. I don’t know what the future holds for you, just as I can’t guess what tomorrow has in store for me. What I do know is that failure is not a sign that you should give up.
If you’re considering walking away from storytelling, leave your failures out of the decision-making process. Everyone who’s ever succeeded at anything worthwhile has failed first. And often, they’ve failed spectacularly.
Remember Special Agent Gracie Hart from Miss Congeniality? Early in the movie she botches an assignment and gets another agent injured. That failure follows her throughout the movie and sets her up for a shot at redemption. In real life, we’re not guaranteed a splashy finale that pulls us full-circle, but if you let past failures dictate your actions, you’ll never know if that success story is forthcoming or what it might look like for you.
Success doesn’t look the same on everyone. Lightning McQueen is a fantastic example of this. After the opening scene of the Disney movie, Cars, he believes that success means winning the tie-breaking race and hoisting the Piston Cup so he can impress all the fancy sponsors. His journey along Route 66 teaches him that winning at any cost isn’t success after all.
Sometimes the road we’re on takes us to the pinnacle of all we’ve ever dreamed. And sometimes our dreams change. Either way, failure will play an important role. It’s a necessary obstacle that will help your heroes grow. And if you’ll let it, failure can do the same for you.
How has failure or a fear of it impacted your writing journey? Do you have any advice for writers struggling with failure right now?
Shannon Dittemore is an author and speaker. Her books include the Angel Eyes trilogy, a supernatural foray into the realm of angels and demons, as well as the fantastical adventure novel Winter, White and Wicked. Its sequel, Rebel, Brave and Brutal is due out January 10, 2023.
Shannon’s stories feature strong female leads grappling with fear and faith as they venture into the wilds of the unknown. She’s often wondered if she’s writing her own quest for bravery again and again.
It’s a choice she values highly. Bravery. And she’s never more inspired than when young people ball up their fist and punch fear in the face.
To that end, Shannon takes great joy in working with young writers, both in person and online at Go Teen Writers, an instructional blog recognized by Writer’s Digest four years running as a “101 Best Websites for Writers” selection.
For more about Shannon and her books, please visit her website, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest.
Miss Shannon,
Thank you for that. It’s the lesson we don’t want to hear, the reminder we wish had no truth in it. I’d like to deny it, but I can’t. I spent eight months writing a novel and have no idea if it will ever be published. After seven rejections and counting, I’m plotting a new book.
Oh help.
As I begin to work on separate project and continue to query the first, your words remind me to be glad I’m not a gladiator. I have a little leeway to fail – and it won’t kill me, so thanks for the words of encouragement. I will continue to work. Cheers and good writing!
Yes, all good things take time. Great post.
Failure’s definition is a lack of success, and while I have been disappointed by not achieving a certain end goal, every attempt I make garners success in other ways. Maybe I finally grasped the concept of show don’t tell. Or wrote my first story to the end. I try to focus less on “wins” and more on growth. That helps me put less pressure on myself.
Wow. Beautifully said Shannon. And so true. I haven’t reached the point in my writing journey where I’ve had to send my work out there to be put to the test, but when I get my first few inevitable rejections, I’ll be sure to come back here for encouragement. 🙂
Good luck to the rest of you when you hit those bumps in the road! I believe in you!